We’ve all heard about the red flags — the ghosting, the gaslighting, the emotional unavailability — and we’re done accepting bare minimum behavior. But let’s talk about the other side of the coin: the green flags that let you know a man might actually be him. 👏🏾
In this Girl Stop Playin’ episode, I’m flipping the script and breaking down the signs of healthy, emotionally safe, and grown-up love — the kind you deserve. Whether you’re dating with intention, doing the inner work, or finally learning what real love should feel like, this list is for you.
Green flags are those subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) signs that you’re dealing with a man who is emotionally intelligent, respectful, consistent, and truly ready for love. These aren’t grand gestures — they’re often found in the small things he does on a regular basis.
And trust me, sis, those small things matter.
Let’s get into some of the key green flags I shared in this episode — and why they’re so important for your peace, your purpose, and your partnership.
A man who shows up — with his time, his words, and his actions — is a man who’s serious. Consistency brings clarity, and clarity is a green flag. You should never be wondering, “Does he even like me?”
He’s not afraid to talk about his feelings, work through his past, or even go to therapy (yep, my husband did that before we got official 👀). Emotional maturity is not optional, sis.
A real man isn’t pressuring you for sex or making you feel like you owe him intimacy. Respect for your “no” is one of the highest forms of love.
He’s not waiting on you to carry the load. He makes reservations, books trips, plans thoughtful dates — because he sees you as worth the effort.
Whether it’s meeting his friends, being around his family, or inviting you to events — a man who’s serious won’t keep you hidden. If it’s giving “secret,” it’s probably a red flag.
Words matter. When he starts saying we, us, our — not just me and you — he’s imagining a life together. That’s alignment.
Whether it’s your big presentation, your favorite snack, or the name of your childhood dog — he listens and he cares.
When life gets hard, he’s not sitting on the sidelines. He’s offering help, resources, and real support. Green. Flag.
From finances to follow-through, he’s living like a grown man — not a grown boy. His actions match his words, and you don’t have to chase or fix him.
Pay attention to how he treats waiters, family, strangers, and even people who can’t do anything for him. Kindness and character are non-negotiables.
Let me be clear: You do not have to suffer, struggle, or settle to be loved. That whole “ride or die” thing? Played out. We are not struggling in silence or performing for partnership in 2024.
Your future husband won’t require you to earn his love through pain. He’ll meet you with peace, protection, and purpose. And the signs — the green flags — will be there from the beginning.
We’re often so focused on avoiding red flags that we miss the beauty in recognizing green ones. Don’t overlook the man who shows up, follows through, and makes you feel safe. That’s not boring, sis — that’s grown.
If you’re serious about attracting better love, take this list to heart. And next time you’re tempted to settle for confusion, remember: peace is the new passion.
Catch the full episode of Girl Stop Playin’ on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube. And don’t forget to share this with a friend who needs the reminder: you don’t have to earn healthy love — but you do have to expect it. 💚
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