Why You Need REAL Friendships In Your 30s

I can’t lie… I was sold on the idea that the secret to lifelong happiness is lifelong love. As I’ve grown older and experienced more, I’ve realized there is tremendous value in strong, safe friendships in your 30s.

Now, don’t get me wrong – I still daydream about walks in the park in matching outfits at 80 years old. But, now my dreams also include deeper, more meaningful friendships with like-spirited women.

I’ve been super transparent about my mommy issues (that could be a whole blog by itself) and those issues have made it tough to trust which of course makes it hard to have relationships that are more than surface-level. That’s what I feel like friendships in your 30s are really missing …at least for me, that’s the case.

I’ve ended two really long friendships in the last two years and although there’s no hard feelings or bad blood, I definitely didn’t predict those outcomes. I do want to be intentional about not allowing those negative experiences to keep me from connecting and possibly creating friendships that align more with who I am and who I desire to become.

Because our influences impact our outcomes, it’s important that we keep our space safe – but we don’t want to put guards up that keep the good people out, either.

So basically… everybody lied with all that ‘no new friends’ ish.

One of my 2024 goals is to be more intentional with nurturing relationships with the amazing people God has blessed me with. Some I have been friends with for years, and others are simply ‘online’ connections that turned into real-life relationships.. both of which I want to experience more depth in. But, I gotta do the work.

If you want to develop meaningful friendships in your 30s, you have to be a good friend.

In this episode of Girl Stop Playin, I interviewed what I consider a friendship expert, Sybil Amuti Host of The Great Girlfriends Podcast. In this conversation, she shared some jaw-dropping facts & stats about the impact of friendship on our overall well-being. It definitely made me reconsider the value I’d been putting on my platonic relationships.

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What about you?

Have you been putting all the effort into your romantic relationship and leaving no space for friendships? If so, join me on this journey to DO BETTER. Let’s move with intention, love, and honesty so that we can attract and nurture relationships with the people God puts on our path.

I did a little bit of research so I could share even more statistics about the impact of friendships and your quality of life, specifically for women, and found that One study of women diagnosed with breast cancer even found that participants with 10 or more friends had a higher survival rate than those without close friendships!

Comment below and share your the experience you’ve had with friendships in your 30s.